<<I want to get married>>
--a translated journal from Oriental Daily (2006-03-20)
Traditionally, for women, the most important thing in life
is to get married and have a harmonious family. However, it
seems that it is not easy for them to find Mr Right in this
era. In recent years, a lot of speed-dating companies have
been running because of this trend.
Peony - must be active!
I know my boyfriend from the speed-dating event. Now, we
are very happy together. Peony, who is around 30 years old,
is a pretty young lady and she joined the event with a friend
2 years old. Peony finds herself fond of speed-dating events
and thinks it is an effective way for busy people to get
more friends. Nowadays, it is not easy for people to know
their beloved one because boys are outnumbered by the girls,
the working time is too long, the working environment is
not suitable for finding lovers. It is even more difficult
for women to find their partners, as their social statue
is higher and higher, many of them are well educated, some
of them even have master degree. Therefore, they may be
more demanding on finding partners. Under this circumstance,
women should be more active on love matter. Peony understands
the potential of this ‘new market’ and is the event holder
Speed-dating??? Take it easy!!
an event holder, I know people from all walks of life. Some
of them are bosses, technicians and different kinds of professionals.
Now, many of them are my friends and they share minds with
me and I think it is the best thing I get of holding events’
said Peony. In these 2 years, she has been the matchmaker
for many lovers; a couple of them decide to get married
soon. It seems that speed dating is quite effective as it
helps you to find the beloved one, or even your spouse.
Many people expect that knowing more friends by joining
events once or twice only but it is not the fact. As a consequence,
they think that they are the losers of this game and have
very low self-esteem. ‘ Many people think that they can
know more friends very soon, but it is not the case. If
you can find your lover soon, that should be pleased. If
you have tried lots of times and still cannot find your
lover, you should have a reflection on yourself.’ Peony
advises that we can be more familiar with ourselves by joining
the events as it is easier for get rid of our own shortcomings.
Next time, everything will be better.
<<Get you love in 3 minutes>>
21st century is an era of speed. How we can reach our destination in the shortest time is the emssion of every single person of the globe. Speed is not limited on working, but also for dating or in choosing religion.
Choose the church within 3 minutes
Recently, in the Southern West England, the Bishop of Anglican
Church held a very special event, which is for helping the
followers to find a church. The event was simple; it just
‘displayed’ few priests. Each priest had 3 minutes to promote
themselves to the will-be-followers. When the bell rang,
he must stop the speech and the next priest could start
his promotion. The Bishop said that it could let them to
have some interactions and the followers could ask the priests
some religion-related questions. Moreover, the priests could
know more the needs of followers. It may be called a win-win
situation. Strangely, why the speech had been limited to
3 minutes? The answer from church is not a surprise- people
are too busy and they have no time.
What is speed dating?
Perhaps, the example from Anglican Church sounds familiar
to you. Yes, you are right that the idea comes from speed
dating. As implied by the name, it is for finding you partner
speedily. Actually, speed dating comes from a tradition
of Jewish people, as they did not want to get married with
foreign clans. Therefore, single and young male or female
were led by the elder family members to meet with each other
periodically. It has been on the trend in Western America
in late 90s, and then popular in Europe and Asia after 2000.
Usually, speed-dating events have been held in cafe or pub.
The number of female and male should be the same, arranging
by the event holder, each pair of female and male have a
3-7 minutes chatting session. When time is up, the bell
rings. Isn’t it like a game? After all the boys have chatted
with all the girls, they can tick somebody that they are
interested in to keep contact. The event holder will help
them to exchange contact details if and only if the pair
are interested in each other.
Surprisingly, when this new type of activity has gained
popularity in London, England, the event holder finds that
the female outnumbers the male. For this, psychologists
think that male have a high sense of pride, male think that
only the inferior will join speed dating events. Moreover,
many male who tried speed dating usually do not share this
experience with their friends.
Finding love by speed dating
However, it seems speed dating is quite popular in England.
In the beginning of September, a railway company in England
promoted a ‘real speed dating’ service. The train started
from London, then it went to Bath, which is in Southern
west of England with a ‘speed’ of 200km per hour. For the
first class passengers, it only took one and a half hour
to make a round trip. The cost was only 45 pounds. In this
90-minute journey, each passenger has 4 minute to talk with
each opposite sex. The railway company said that this journey
is associated with romantic fantasy. According to a survey
by that company, 13% of the passengers claimed that they
had conversation with other people or have a romantic experience
in this journey.
Last year, speed dating went to the Taiwanese Market and
it is a hot topic among the public. There was an activity
called ‘ find your love in 3 minute’, which was held by
the media and love matching companies as a way to arouse
public interest. You cannot believe that there are so many
speed dating events before Valentine’s Day…………….
female are sure for love matter?>>
30% of college girls are afraid that they cannot find the love one.
In the old days, high quality girls were not afraid that they
could not find the spouse. However, that is not true anymore.
This is because that their social statue and income are higher
and higher, on the other hand, the quality of boys is lower
and lower. As a result, a research has found that many college
girls are worried about their marriage because the low quality
of boys. 30% of interviewed girls claimed that they are worried
that they will be single for the rest of life.
A research had been done by the School of Journalism and
Communication, CUHK, it has shown that there is a dilemma
in the hearts of girls nowadays. They want to get married
but it is hard to find a dream lover. Nearly 90% girls said
that they will get married but they are worried about if
they can get married. 35% girls said that they are extremely
worried about it, around 25-28% said that they are quite
worried, only about 13% said that they are never worried.
Why the situation is that bad? It is because that the quality
of boys is too low or the number of boys is too few in Hong
Unbalanced number of boys and girl in school
Student Association be the matchmaker
What are the problems of boys in Hong Kong? A year4 student
from School of Law, HKU, Miss Lee said that, in Hong Kong,
boys are quite childish, not mature enough. They do not
know how to get along with girls and they even fight for
a seat with girls in canteen or bus. Her classmate, Miss
Kwan thought that the ability of boys is not as good as
girls. Nowadays, the school of Law attracts lots of elites
to study, but in this department, they are not many boys.
Some boys’ mind is quite traditional; they do not want their
wives are more capable than them. A year1 student from the
department of quantitative finance said that he would not
accept his wife has a higher moneymaking power than him.
According to the statistic from the University Grants Committee,
the ratio of boys to girls among 8 universities is 45:55.In
Hong Kong Institute of Education, nearly 80% are girls.
In the Hong Kong University of Science and Technology, there
are more boys, less than 40% are girls. However, for some
traditional boys favorite subjects which have been studied
mostly by girls now, such as the faculty of medicine.
Under this circumstance, a Student Association has started
to play the role of matchmaker. They organized some events
to let students to find their partner. The Societies of
Sociology Department of CUHK and HKU held an event named
reflections on speed dating. It let each pair of opposite
sex to have 4 minutes chatting session. The person-in-charge
of this society, Miss Chan said that the response from participants
was quite satisfactory. Even though they are not interested
in Sociology, they should be interested in finding lover.
In this event, there were totally 8 pairs of opposite sex
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